Basic Concepts of Yichud: Preface

Davening has the ability to create a perfect יחוד (Unity) between the bestower and the recipient, leading to a definite connection to Hashem. But it is important to realize that this is not accomplished in one moment; rather it is step by step. Just as within davening itself there is an order - a person should praise Hashem prior to making requests - so too, there is a process by which a person introduces his heart to davening.

We can use Esther HaMalkah (who is a metaphor for the Neshama) as an example. When she wished to influence the king to do her will, she did not immediately begin with her request. She invited the king to a feast at which it became clear that the king wished to do her will, after all, he extended the golden scepter. She then continued step by step until it became time to shout out, "My request is for my life, and I am asking for my nation."

In any dialogue, for example a conversation amongst relatives, you don't immediately feel the strength of the connection. An intelligent person allows himself to be relaxed as the connection deepens; he knows it takes time. The same is true in the world of spirituality, the lot of someone who davens, he needs to know and understand that he is rising slowly slowly until the desired goal.