Monday, September 24, 2012

Relationship of Give & Take: 3a

All of this is still just a beginning. Now we need to get to the next step of relationship. Two people can unexpectedly meet each other, for example at a wedding, and  enjoy a good conversation. One may ask the other for advice, and they find it very enjoyable. But it is all superficial, there is no proactive desire to relate.

In our story, the poor person may feel that now that he has arrived the donor is happy to see him, but he absolutely does not believe that the donor wanted him to show up in the first place. Would the donor have invited him to come to his house in order to develop a relationship? There is still something lacking in the building-up of the recipient on the part of the donor. The relationship is still superficial.

To have a deeper connection, that the recipient knows that the giver needs him and craves a relationship with him soul-to-soul, there has to be a connection on a completely different level. The recipient should not feel like he needs the donor, rather the donor, on his own initiative, should make it clear that he greatly needs the poor person and would gladly invite him. This will instill in the heart of the poor person how significant he really is.Only then will his self-image be completely restored.

The donor needs first to instill in his own heart that the recipient is bringing benefits to himself. He can initiate the relationship only when he realizes how he was lacking until this poor person arrived and brought him goodness and light.



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