A person may notice that there are certain topics from which he shies away during his conversations with Hashem. Whatever the psychological reason underlying that behavior, the bottom line is that something is causing a division between himself and Hashem. Perhaps he feels comfortable discussing them with a friend, but only as something theoretical, or maybe they are things that he has buried so deep that he can't really verbalize them in any setting.
In a close friendship if a person leaves one aspect of his life out of the friendship and refuses to discuss it, it can ruin the entire friendship. He can't say, "I am giving you my entire heart, but one tiny little bit is reserved." In a trust-based relationship it is either all or nothing. If he opens all the doors of his heart except for one, it is a sign that even all the others aren't truly open. True closeness requires total openness. As it says in a Ketubah: ואל יעלימו לא זה מזו ולא זו מזה, "And they should not hide, not he from her and not her from he."
In a close friendship if a person leaves one aspect of his life out of the friendship and refuses to discuss it, it can ruin the entire friendship. He can't say, "I am giving you my entire heart, but one tiny little bit is reserved." In a trust-based relationship it is either all or nothing. If he opens all the doors of his heart except for one, it is a sign that even all the others aren't truly open. True closeness requires total openness. As it says in a Ketubah: ואל יעלימו לא זה מזו ולא זו מזה, "And they should not hide, not he from her and not her from he."
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