Many people are frequently seeking out connections, as our sages teach us טב למיתב טן דו מלמיתב ארמלו, it is preferable to be part of a twosome, than it is to be alone. Even the act of searching for someone to whom one can connect relieves some of the oppressive feeling of being alone. The idea that there is perhaps someone who wants them and may be responsive, relaxes a person with the knowledge that they are possibly not alone.
Even if one finds a friend or relative who helps by providing some companionship, if the person won't verbalize the fact that he feel alone and disconnected and needs company as he is uncomfortable being alone, the companion can't really help because the relationship will always be expressed in other terms and not the real issue which it addresses. This is why many people have friends, but still feel lonely; they feel uncomfortable that they need the relief from loneliness.
Even if one finds a friend or relative who helps by providing some companionship, if the person won't verbalize the fact that he feel alone and disconnected and needs company as he is uncomfortable being alone, the companion can't really help because the relationship will always be expressed in other terms and not the real issue which it addresses. This is why many people have friends, but still feel lonely; they feel uncomfortable that they need the relief from loneliness.
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