The Importance of Relationships: 4a

Hashem established His relationship with us as being predicated on ה' בדד ינחנו, Hashem will lead him alone. הן עם לבדו ישכון, behold this nation will dwell alone. It is in the "aloneness" that is found the opening to develop a relationship with Hashem.

Hashem is telling every person: Your soul is not relaxed. Day and night you are running from one refuge to another because you can't stand yourself as you are. Listen, my child. I will be your place of refuge. Come to me! With me you will feel protected and will no longer feel alone. Of all the things I created there is nothing that can provide you with true tranquility and joy - other than me. Come to me and you will find peace.

Yes, I created you in a way that you cannot be alone. The purpose behind that was that you should be pining for me. The feeling of being alone is not something from which you should be seeking to escape, but the path to lead you to speak with me, to connect to me alone. 

The Importance of Relationships: 3b

We can see this phenomenon when we look at people's behavior during the winter.

The winter is preceded by the fall months during which people are very busy with the Yomim Tovim. They are preoccupied with thinking about the holidays as well as with the practical aspects of the relevant Mitzvos.  Then come long months of seemingly no change one after the other. People end up spending a lot of time at home, and much less time in the company of others.

How do people tend to respond? Many people throw themselves into new projects during the winter. They are doing so in order to escape the feeling of being alone. Rather than appreciating the opportunity to know themselves, they engage in courses, projects or get involved in organizations. Anything to escape being alone.

This is what the Torah says: לא טוב היות האדם לבדו, man does not feel at ease when he is alone. He finds external stimuli on which to rest.

The Importance of Relationships: 3

Most people never find themselves in a state in which they can truly meet themselves; they are always connected to others through personal or professional connections all day. The need to earn a living, to do something, to eat, to be successful preoccupy their minds and fill their hearts until they never have the chance to truly discover their own selves.

As Koheles teaches us, often it takes old age for a person to truly find himself alone. He realizes that all he has is meaningless. Perhaps then he can find himself for the first time. Some people don't want to face themselves and discover all sorts of ailments with which to occupy themselves. These ailments were hitherto undiscovered as he was busy with other pursuits, now they become his pursuit, all in an effort to escape himself.

The Importance of Relationships: 2

A person may find herself desiring a particular taste. Perhaps she wants something very spicy or very sweet. She won't be satisfied eating something with a mild taste because she is seeking something that will touch her essence. All the wonderfully tasting foods in the world will be unappetizing to her as she has a specific need which needs to be filled.
Similarly, a person with a deep mind will not find himself satisfied by engaging in gossipy conversation. He is seeking something which touches his essential self and only a wise insight will satisfy his needs. As a result, hanging around with people who engage in idle chatter does not help him to exit a feeling of loneliness; even if he is engaged in the conversation he is still not in his own element.
It is for this reason that you will find people who seem to be always seeking an escape. They are perpetually unsatisfied with pursuits that are not engaging their souls. Unable to be released from their feeling of being alone, they search tirelessly until they can find what is their's.